Love well & focus on what matters.

That is a challenge from baby Nathan’s mom, Lacey.
You see, Nathan’s dad, Nate, died  unexpectedly while Lacey was pregnant with him.
One year ago, today, actually.
While I’ve known Lacey since childhood, I had only met Nate once. It was obvious, though, that he was head over heels in love with Lacey and I knew babies wouldn’t be too far in the future. Sadly, though, Nate passed away before their first baby was born.

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While I did this session months and months ago, I waited until today to post it.
If you’re wondering about the quilt, it was made out of Nate’s shirts, which he was notorious for wearing.

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From Lacey…

“A year ago today I got a phone call that no wife should ever get. An ordinary Tuesday turned into a nightmare as we raced to the hospital, but he was already gone. My world got a lot quieter that day. I’ve struggled this year – with anger, with questions, with overwhelming sorrow and at times, with my faith. But these past 12 months have also been redemptive…full of growth, of finding a strength I didn’t know was there, navigating motherhood, relationships that have deepened, amazing support & an eternal perspective that can only be a testament to God’s grace. So now I sit here on the first anniversary of my wonderful husband’s untimely death, a 31 year old widow, and wonder, now what? I’ll keep doing what I’ve been doing…talking about him, laughing at funny memories, loving our baby, and cherishing our story. I will also challenge each of you to love well & to focus on what matters. There is so much that just doesn’t. Forgive quickly, don’t waste time on trivial things and know that what you think drives you crazy would quite possibly be the things you miss the most. On a day that I really have no words, I felt compelled to write something as so many of you have walked this road with me. Thank you for your support. I love and miss you, baby.”

 

19 Comments

  1. alpana November 7, 2014 at 5:24 pm #

    🙁 Such beautiful photos and memory of this sweet little one.

  2. Lindsay Madden November 7, 2014 at 4:09 pm #

    OMG Kel. I have no words. You captured everything so beautifully. <3

  3. Danielle McCarty November 7, 2014 at 3:48 pm #

    Beautiful post! The images are amazing Kel! <3

  4. Jaine Kershner November 7, 2014 at 2:17 pm #

    what a precious baby and unbelievable gift to cherish. thinking of you lacey 🙂

  5. Kristin November 7, 2014 at 8:02 am #

    Gorgeous photos and such a heartbreaking situation. Lacey your strength is inspiring.

  6. Whitley November 7, 2014 at 1:59 am #

    What a beautiful baby boy & beautiful pictures. I am amazed at the strength and poised of this amazing momma. Sending my love to her & her son.

  7. Nicole Spangler November 7, 2014 at 1:29 am #

    What a touching story and beautiful images. My favorite images are the ones with the quilt.

  8. KaMarlowete November 6, 2014 at 5:03 pm #

    I don’t have the right words to respond to this. Tears and inspiration for my day, yes, but words, no. What a tribute Lacey is to her husband’s memory. I’m sorry she never gets him again, but I love that she lives with him in her heart, and that’s something Nathan will never be able to miss.

  9. Jessica Deane November 6, 2014 at 2:53 pm #

    These are absolutely beautiful. My heart breaks for her. But her words through it all amaze & encourage me. Her faith stands & that’s amazing.

  10. Donna November 6, 2014 at 2:45 pm #

    What beautiful images! I’m so sorry for your tragic loss.

  11. Liz November 6, 2014 at 2:36 pm #

    How beautiful and heartbreaking.

  12. Clarice November 6, 2014 at 2:20 pm #

    What an inspiring and touching story. I admire the strength she has found in herself. What beautiful photos to cherish as well.

  13. Tania November 6, 2014 at 2:47 am #

    What a beautiful testament to the strength of the human spirit. Sending you some love and hugs! Your son is beautiful !

  14. Amy Ortiz November 6, 2014 at 1:12 am #

    What an amazing post. I love all of your images and that quilt I am sure will forever be in there lives. Beautiful.

  15. Bonnie Stewart November 6, 2014 at 12:03 am #

    Gorgeous images. What a heartbreaking story yet such a beautiful parting gift from her husband.

  16. Amy P November 5, 2014 at 11:43 pm #

    I have tears in my eyes after reading this and seeing your beautiful photos. What a wonderful tribute to his daddy. I the last photo, it looks like Nate is looking at his son, and his son is looking at him. Absolutely beautiful, everything.

  17. Scarlett November 5, 2014 at 11:31 pm #

    Absolutely beautiful!! Thoughts and prayers with this amazing mom and beautiful baby!

  18. Tiara McFalls November 5, 2014 at 11:17 pm #

    What a touching story with a beautiful little baby. These photos are gorgeous and thank you Lacey for sharing your story with is.

  19. Nancy November 5, 2014 at 11:02 pm #

    What an absolutely beautiful little guy! So, so sorry for your loss Lacey. Thank you for the reminder to cherish what really matters. <3